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Dancing in the rain

I now sign my emails - 'Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.' 


This statement really spoke to me when a friend gave me it as a card recently. I love it because of the combination of optimism and realism. Storms do come and they can be hard work. And they can be weathered and made something of - dancing in the rain can be fun, even though you do get wet. Even if you get wet you can always dry off later. It also speaks to my belief that we do have some control over how we view the world and therefore how we respond to it.  We can choose to be terrified of storms, often if those around us are, probably people who have felt damaged by them.


The message we get is that this is therefore an uncontrollable force. An alternative is to take a view that this is an amazing feature of the strength of nature that we can use as a source of energy , and go with rather than fighting against. The storms of earlier in the year showed us all how powerful water can be and that it is pretty unstoppable. Our response can be to accept that force and find ways of benefiting from it and enjoying rather than trying to change it. I think the therapy process can be like that sometimes, we need to learn new habits of optimism and to find a belief that we do have some control over our lives.